Hi! Thanks for asking. I don’t really know what your conversation looked like so of I can’t say what exactly might have caused offense but although you might have meant “I like all men including trans men” it could have been read “I am intrigued by/fetishize the idea of a man with a pussy so therefore I’d like to fuck you”. A lot of trans guys, most of whom have a fairly wide breadth of creepy experiences with cis men who say awkward shit once you are naked, are pretty vigilant in screening out people who they think might want to hook up for mostly objectifying reasons.
So as to advice I would say A. if you are the type of person (and I’m sure you are not) who talks to trans guys like they are an intriguing sex project, don’t! Or at least make sure that someone is consenting to it first, not everyone objects to objectification but you have to really check in about that first
B. I would say its unnecessary most of the time to say “I like trans guys” in an interaction, although you might be trying to communicate that first thought I talked about. Think about that thought replicated in other phrases: “I like asian men” “I like fat guys” “I like short guys”, the thing that you are talking about might not be the primary thing they want to be related to as. Ideally you are really into them because you think they’re hot as a person, not as a category. I would instead just converse, like you would with any other person and if they say they’re trans say “cool, I like all types of men”.
Hope that helps!
Call me a dud, but I’ve never actually seen “The Silence of the Lambs”. However, I am very familiar with Buffalo Bill’s famous quote: “Would you fuck me? I’d fuck me. I’d fuck me hard. I’d fuck me so hard.” As creepy as I know this character to be, I think this is actually some really good life advice.
Some days you take a selfie and you’re like “damn, I’d hit that.”
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